357 Best Relationship Questions to Ask (to Deepen Your Love)

Would you like to deepen your love with your partner?

We have prepared for you a huge collection of relationship questions to ask divided into several categories: romantic, deep, important, intimate, controversial, about the future, about kids, and more…

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Romantic Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. Is there anything I’ve done lately that’s made you feel loved?
  2. If you could bring me to any country, where would it be?
  3. What is your favorite memory of dating me?
  4. What would be the perfect date night for you?
  5. Do you consider me a romantic? And yourself?
  6. What do you think is our best moment together?
  7. Do you think you could be even more in love than we are now?
  8. What are some of your favorite memories we’ve made?
  9. How do you show your love for each other?
  10. What song would you dedicate to our relationship?
  11. What’s your love language—and are there any love languages that don’t matter to you at all?
  12. What was the best moment in your relationship so far? (Are you smiling while recalling that moment?)
  13. Do you have a romantic fantasy?
  14. What were you thinking about the day we met?
  15. What’s one date we haven’t gone on yet that you want to try?
  16. What makes you blush?
  17. When did you first want to kiss me?
  18. If you believe in soul mates, do you think you’ve met yours?
  19. What’s your favorite thing that we do together?
  20. What do you think is our best moment together?
  21. What do you love about me? Just pick one.
  22. Do you like kissing or hugging more?
  23. What do you think the perfect date looks like?
  24. What was it like for you when we first kissed?
Romantic Relationship Questions to Ask

Deep Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. What do you think I appreciate the most about you?
  2. In what ways do we complicate our relationship?
  3. What makes our relationship better/special?
  4. What is your favorite thing about me?
  5. Have you started to do something because of each other’s influence?
  6. In what ways do you think we’re most compatible?
  7. What do you value most about our relationship?
  8. What do you think is your best quality?
  9. What are the most important things you would need in our relationship in the future to be truly happy together?
  10. If you could name one thing that you would like to change about our relationship, what would it be?
  11. Name one difference and one similarity between us that you enjoy.
  12. How do you think we’re different from other couples?
  13. Do you think it’s more important to be smart or to be kind?
  14. What life lesson did you learn from me?
  15. Was there anything that surprised you about me as we started getting more serious?
  16. What do you think about couples who own a business together and spend all their time together?
  17. What do you think about couples who are married but live in different cities?
  18. What makes our relationship better/special?
  19. What was the first thought you had about me? What did you think of me right from the start?
  20. How have your dreams changed since we first met?
  21. For you, what was the biggest challenge in our relationship?
  22. Is/was there anything you were afraid or determined to tell me for a long time?
  23. What do you think is your biggest strength and weakness in our relationship?
  24. What makes us stronger as a couple?
  25. What is your favorite thing about me?
  26. How serious are you both taking this relationship?
  27. What do you think our relationship will look like in 5 years?
  28. What qualities are most important to you in the opposite s*x?
  29. Are you positively affecting each other’s life?
  30. What are your top three priorities in life?
Deep Relationship Questions to Ask

Important Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. Where do you see the two of us in 2 years?
  2. Will you make major purchasing decisions together?
  3. If you have different beliefs, what will you lead your children to do?
  4. Is there anything you think we should work on in our relationship?
  5. Is there anything you would like me to change about myself?
  6. Do you prefer that we do our grocery shopping together or separately?
  7. Have you talked about possible investments?
  8. Do you prefer that we eat meals at the same time and cook together?
  9. How much money should we contribute to a joint fund?
  10. Do you trust each other?
  11. Do you know your health status?
  12. Do you create a budget for each month? Is this important to you?
  13. How do you think children will change our relationship / affect our lives?
  14. What does marriage mean to you?
  15. How will you share childcare?
  16. Can you compromise with each other?
  17. How do we pay our expenses – an equal share or does one person pays more?
  18. How would you like to raise the children?
  19. Will you manage the money together? Will you have a joint account?
  20. Is there anything that I can do to communicate better when we have a conflict?
  21. How do you feel about getting a pet? Does this ever come into consideration?
  22. Are you saving for your retirement?
  23. Who will stay with them on maternity/paternity leave?
  24. What should be a priority in our relationship?
  25. Will you be drawing up a prenuptial agreement?
  26. If so, how many?
  27. Do you want to have children?
  28. Are you both debt-free? If debt exists, how do you plan to deal with it?
  29. How do we want to divide finances?
  30. How much money do we want to set aside for luxuries like date nights and travel?
Important Relationship Questions to Ask

Funny Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. If you were to give me a different name, what do you think would best suit me?
  2. Who’s more romantic?
  3. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to know about me? It can be as weird and wonderful as you like!
  4. Who has the crazier family?
  5. Who’s more of a foodie?
  6. Who goes to bed earlier?
  7. Who takes up more space in bed?
  8. Who’s the bigger spender?
  9. CHALLENGE: Give me your best chat-up line now. (Think on the spot!) Go, go, go, go!
  10. Who is more likely to get lost in a strange city?
  11. Who’s a bigger mess?
  12. What new nickname do you think would best suit me?
  13. Who wants s*x more?
  14. Who says I love you more often?
  15. Have you ever practiced kissing in a mirror? (If not… on your hand, or something else?!)
  16. Who’s a better driver?
  17. Who is a better dancer?
  18. Name the first 3 random things that come to your mind. Go, go, go, go!
  19. Who spends more time in the bathroom?
  20. If we swapped bodies for the day, what would you do?
  21. Who farts the loudest?
  22. Who’s the head of the family?
Funny Relationship Questions to Ask

Controversial Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. Is there something you’ve always wanted to ask me but you’re afraid of?
  2. What would you miss the most if we weren’t together?
  3. How do you think our conflicts have strengthened our relationship?
  4. Will you consult me before making major decisions?
  5. Why do you think people cheat on their partners?
  6. Do I have any financial habits that bother you?
  7. In what ways do we complicate our relationship?
  8. What if I was a spender? How would you handle it?
  9. Do you believe in second chances?
  10. What relationship advice would you give yourself if you were to meet in the past?
  11. If you could only choose one, career or relationship, which one would you choose?
  12. What’s your ideal relationship?
  13. Do you have any deal-breakers, or things that would make you seriously reconsider our relationship?
  14. Will you stay even if I’m having anxiety or depression?
  15. Has it crossed your mind to give up?
  16. How long should two people date before they get married?
  17. Being friends with the opposite s*x, is it okay?
  18. Will you still choose me if you go back in time?
  19. What are the things that you wish we could work on in our relationship?
  20. What is your pet peeve in a relationship?
  21. If you ever face temptation, how will you deal with it?
  22. What is the hardest thing we’ve gone through together?
  23. Do you bring up arguments very often and why?
  24. Would you fight for me if ever I want to let go?
  25. Do you believe that white lies are okay?
  26. Do we have the same love language?
  27. Have you seen each other at your best and worst?
  28. What is the least lovable trait that I have?
  29. Is it important who wins the argument?
  30. Love life or career?
  31. Are you open about using s*x toys and trying out role plays?
  32. Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
  33. Have you felt bored with our relationship?
Controversial Relationship Questions to Ask

Intimate Relationship Questions to Ask

  1. What’s your favorite s*x position?
  2. What’s something I do that always turns you on?
  3. Does the thought of someone watching us have s*x excite you?
  4. What do you find most s3xy about me?
  5. How do you define great s*x?
  6. Where would you like to be touched more often?
  7. Do you watch adult movies?
  8. Are you happy with our s3x life?
  9. What’s your favorite time of day to be intimate?
  10. What’s something not obviously s*xual that turns you on?
  11. What’s something new that you’d like to try in bed together?
  12. What is your favorite time for s3x?
  13. What’s something you wish we did together more often?
  14. What is your favorite position?
  15. Does the idea of getting caught during s*x excite you?
  16. Do you have any s*xual fantasies?
  17. Do you have any wishes or fantasies that you haven’t told me yet?
  18. Have you ever thought about me while masturbating?
  19. What else would you like to try in bed?
  20. What do you think we can do to keep our s*x life exciting?
  21. Do you think s3x is important for a relationship?
  22. Would you rather have only morning s*x for the rest of your life or strictly s*x at night?
  23. Have you ever faked an orgasm—not necessarily with me, but in general?
  24. Do you like playing with s*x toys, or would you like to try them as a couple?
  25. What do you enjoy most about s3x?
  26. If we could have s*x anywhere, where would you choose?
  27. Is there a type of outfit or clothes you find s*xy that you’d like to see me in?
  28. What turns you on the most?
  29. Is there any place you’ve always wanted to experience s3x?
Intimate Relationship Questions to Ask

Relationship Questions to Ask about Future

  1. Do you see yourself growing old with me?
  2. How and where do you envision us spending our retirement?
  3. At what age do you see yourself getting married?
  4. When it comes to the future, do you and your partner have the same relationship goal?
  5. How are we going to spend important holidays?
  6. What should be our main goals for the future?
  7. What are some fears you have about taking this next step?
  8. Which of your friends and family members are close enough to us that they may come to our home on very short notice, or even announced?
  9. What tasks should we each take on to keep the home in good shape?
  10. How often will you need time to yourself?
  11. How would you prefer to decorate our home?
  12. What would your ideal wedding look like?
  13. How and where do you envision us spending our retirement?
  14. What are some things you really want to do together, both short and long-term?
  15. Do you think we will become great parents?
  16. Why are you excited to move in together?
  17. What are you most excited about when it comes to our future?
  18. Are there any tasks (for example, grocery shopping) that you think could be fun to do together?
  19. What tasks should we divide?
  20. Would you want to create any traditions in your family going forward?
  21. Are we going to set aside regular time for date nights?
  22. How do you feel about hosting events, parties, or friends and family members as overnight guests?
  23. How are we going to keep our relationship strong or fresh?
  24. What is your preferred level of cleanliness?
  25. If you had an unlimited budget, where would you plan our next trip/vacation?
  26. Do you see us settling down anytime soon?
  27. Can you think of a new hobby we should try together?
  28. Where do you see us ten years from now?
  29. Do you want to live in this town where we are dating, or do you plan to move?
  30. Do you want a grand wedding or a simple one?
  31. What do you think our relationship will look like in 5 years?
  32. What should be our main goals for the future?
Relationship Questions to Ask about Future

Relationship Questions to Ask about Kids

  1. Do you want kids? Why or why not?
  2. What kind of parent do you think each of us would be?
  3. What kind of education did you envision our children having?
  4. What do you think would be my strengths or weaknesses as a parent?
  5. Would you be open to adoption?
  6. How do you think you would handle pregnancy and labor?
  7. How do you think you would handle the adoption process?
  8. Do you ever picture having grandchildren?
  9. How long do you think people should wait before having kids?
  10. What are the values you’d like to instill in our children?
  11. How would you prefer we handle telling our children about the world’s realities?
  12. Have you always envisioned yourself having kids?
Relationship Questions to Ask about Kids

Would You Rather Questions

  1. Would you rather have a cat or a dog?
  2. Would you rather be poor and do a job you love or be rich and do a job you hate?
  3. Sweet or salty?
  4. Would you rather rid the world of wars or hunger?
  5. Mountains or the sea?
  6. Would you rather speak the language of animals or speak all the languages of the world?
  7. Would you rather own a house or travel the world?
  8. Do you prefer to always have summer or always have summer?
  9. Would you rather be able to fly or breathe underwater?
  10. Would you rather live in Antarctica or the Sahara?
  11. Would you rather be kissed or hugged?
  12. Would you rather have your first child at eighteen or at forty?
  13. Prefer a lifetime unlimited voucher to your favorite restaurant or clothing store?
  14. Would you rather come a little later or a lot earlier?
  15. Should kids wear uniforms or dress arbitrarily?
  16. Would you rather get rich through hard work or win the lottery?
  17. Would you rather lose your keys or your phone?
  18. City or country?
  19. Would you rather work as part of a team or alone / by yourself?
  20. Would you rather call or text?
  21. Would you rather lose your hearing or your sight?
  22. Better to have many good friends or one for life and death?
  23. Would you rather go to the cinema alone or go out to dinner alone?
  24. Would you rather be a monk all your life or be constantly hounded by tabloids and paparazzi for the rest of your life?
  25. Would you rather have a book or a movie?
  26. Would you rather win the Olympics or become a Nobel Prize winner?
  27. Do you prefer to propose in private, in public or in front of friends/family?
  28. Would you rather have more time or money?
  29. Would you rather be the star of a team that lost or sit on the bench of a team that won?
  30. If it were possible, would you rather be a child or an adult all your life?
  31. Would you rather have a gift or money for your birthday?
Would You Rather Questions

Who Would Rather Questions

  1. Who is more likely to survive without coffee?
  2. Who would be more likely to sign up for a TV competition (e.g., Family Fortunes)?
  3. Who is more likely to end up in jail?
  4. Who would rather eat a spider?
  5. Who would be more likely to get lost in the woods?
  6. Who would rather forget the anniversary?
  7. Who would be more likely to go bungee jumping?
  8. Which of us takes more risks?
  9. Who is more likely to help a stranger on the street who has collapsed?
  10. Who would rather fall asleep in the theater?
  11. Who would be a worse actor?
  12. Who would rather eat a can of dog food?
  13. Who would make a better diplomat?
  14. Who cares more about the environment?
  15. Who is more likely to overeat?
  16. Who would be the first to start talking about children?
  17. Who is more addicted to social media?
  18. Who is more likely to go shopping when we run out of pastries/other food?
  19. Who would rather go into politics?
  20. Who was/is the bigger nerd?
  21. Who would find it easier to give up fast food?
  22. Who would be more likely to visit an indigenous tribe?
  23. Who would rather slip in the shower?
  24. Who is more adventurous?
  25. Who is more responsible?
Who Would Rather Questions

Relationship Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Are you willing to compromise your happiness for a successful relationship?
  2. When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with your partner?
  3. Do you believe in staying with your partner for a very long time or even forever?
  4. Do you look forward to your future with your partner?
  5. Do you smile when you relate something from your daily life with your partner?
  6. Can you recall the most romantic moment with your partner?
  7. Do you throw your temper easily for small mistakes of your partners?
  8. When was the last time you said “I love you” to your partner?
  9. Do you feel jealous if your partner hangs out with a friend of the opposite s*x?
  10. If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?
  11. How often do you think of your partner?
  12. Is it really necessary to know everything from your partner’s previous relationships?
  13. Do you get each other’s feelings without the need to say anything?
  14. Do you make sacrifices for your relationship?
  15. Do you think your partner’s friends and family like you?
  16. How much do you think you understand your partner?
  1. Do you respect each other’s beliefs?
  2. Are you keeping any secrets that you’re afraid of letting your partner know?
  3. What makes you happier in a relationship, sharing or sacrificing?
  4. Are you happy with the intimacy you share?
  5. Have you ever thought about breaking up with your partner and why?
  6. Are you in a relationship only because you enjoy the excitement or the feeling to be loved and cared about?
  7. Have you ever apologized for what you’ve done wrong to your partner?
  8. Will you lie for the sake of your partner’s happiness and how do you define the line?
  9. Do you feel the same way you felt for your partner at the beginning of the relationship?
  10. When was the last time you dreamt about your partner?
  11. Have you ever thought about cheating on your partner? Why?
  12. Do you forgive your partner’s mistakes easily?
  13. Do you still like what you loved about your partner and why?
  14. Will you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault?
  15. Do you like spending time with your partner’s friends and family?
  16. Have you ever changed anything for your partner?
  17. Do you feel that your partner accepts the way you are?

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